Is there something wrong with my son?
I find him different from other kids which I came across.
First, he doesn’t listen well to instruction. At his age, I think he should be able to understand. We have to repeat a few times (more than 3) before he gets the point but sometimes even that he still doesn’t get the point. Even though it is as simple as sitting down or stop. It really gets to me now. My patience has been drained away by him alone.
He is a defiance. Whatever I don’t like him doing, he will do it and watch for my reaction. If I scold him, he will cry. If I don’t bother with him, he will continue doing it. If I tell him over and over again not to do it, he will still do it. If I still him to do other things, he will forget about this matter for that moment but later, he will do it again.
He is aggressive towards others. He pulls my hand when I don’t want to follow him around. He pulls other people’s hands too. He pushes others away. He throws things across the room and at people. He steps on books and toys that are in his way.
This morning at Lollipop Preschool, the teacher called me and asked me to pick Brandon up earlier. She told me over the phone that Brandon is being difficult and she couldn’t handle him. When I arrived, they were at the playground playing and Brandon was there too. I walked to the teacher and we talked. She told me he kept pulling her away from the others and when she was helping other kids for project, he pushed the other kid away. Another teacher told me she was doing puzzle with him and he was fine but out of sudden, he started to throw the puzzle across the room. They told him to stop but he just didn’t want to listen. The first teacher was from the previous class we took last term and she told me she only observed this behavior of him this term, today. She suggested for him to get help for his behavior.
I contacted LAUSD (LA Unified School District) when I returned from Malaysia to arrange for a speech therapy evaluation and may be behavior evaluation as well. I made this appointment because I found out my son cannot pronouce the sound of ‘K’ or ‘C’ properly. He usually pronounce the word with the ‘T’ sound. Example, “Coconut”, he would say “Toh toh nut”. I talked to the pediatrician and was told to contact the local school district to our city. It will take a month or two before an evaluation interview will be set up. We did a comprehensive interview over the phone and paperwork is in the mail for me to fill up.
When I see other kids, I really feel they are angels. When I see mine, I see two pointy devil ears right above his head. I did everything I can but it still didn’t work. Aihs … very tiring and very sad sometimes about this matter. Just don’t know what to do now. *sigh*
hope it’s just a growing up phase. but i understand how u feel.
posted on October 6th, 2009 at 12:18 am
brandon should be fine. no worries
posted on October 6th, 2009 at 3:11 pm
Ah my dear friend, I believe every kids is different and have their own behaviour and characteristic.
The child climb or run or play, they are just child. But if a child is taking over your authority, and do not obey, you will need to be strict and do not spare the rod.
I think being aggressive is trying to grab attention and don’t like to share things with others.
You got use rotan to teach? I think if a child is not obeying, we should be strict and rotan to teach. Then explain why mummy rotan…then sayang sayang again…
Here cannot use rotan, or else i will probably be arrested for abusing the kid. LOL! that’s why i don’t own one because it will be hard not to use it if i have one. i don’t know how, i will probably need to seek help for this matter.
posted on October 7th, 2009 at 9:13 pm
I think Brandon’s normal because Lucas is just like that too e.g. the ignoring of instructions, defiance and aggressive towards other kids.
From an English teacher aka linguist, I wouldn’t worry too much about the speech either because:
a) the consonants take a while longer than the vowels and
b) speech development is generally slower in boys
I think it’s great Brandon can say 3-syllable words and speak English and Cantonese! And Cantonese is one of the MOST difficult languages to learn, you know?
Lucas still pronounces “ah-pul”,not “eh-pul” and “air-puh-lane”, not “air-ro-plane” and “the Queen” instead of “McQueen” and lots more. Will post later because I wanna remember his cute lisps and mispronunciations.
I’m not in a hurry to correct him because he’s growing up so fast and with the TV and reading sessions, he corrects himself as he goes along or the teachers do it…
Thank you for sharing your experience. It worries me because that’s why we wanted to get help ASAP. Will see what they say after his interview/evaluation.
posted on October 8th, 2009 at 10:46 pm
Brandon don’t behave that way when we met up.
Generally, kids this age is like that… even my Darrius is extremely defiance. Very ‘em-ten-kong’. The more we tell him not to do the more he will do so ah can be very stressful for me.
Darrius also loves throwing things when he is unhappy or when we scold him. He even hit my MIL because he don’t like her. He will drive his car and bang my MIL on purpose… so I really don;t know what to do with him sometimes.
I guess Brandon just need more time to learn to speak clearly… after all, he’s not even 5 yet so things might change in the next few months.
Something that I have to look into because when he is in the class, he is the only one that doesn’t listen to the teachers. There is another girl in the class who speak ONLY cantonese, but she still behaves very good. I really headache about him, and don’t know what to do with him. Trying to play more games with him, but he is not interested in following rules and he stops playing as we were explaining the rules.
Will see how with the LAUSD interview/evaluation. They just called and told me they mailed out the package recently and expect it to arrive within the next 10 business days.
posted on October 11th, 2009 at 10:56 pm