Sleeping in his own room
We started to have Brandon sleeping in his own room when we bought the bunk bed from Ikea back in November last year. Now he is sleeping by himself in his own room through the night.
Since then I get to sleep on my own bed next to my snoring Hubby (which makes me want to go back sleeping with Brandon on certain nights). The transition was smooth but we still have bumps on some nights. Most of the nights, he will sleep through after I took him to potty around midnite. Some nights, he will wake up around 3am and looking for us. I will walk over and take him to potty, give him water or just tuck him back in his blanket. Some nights he will wake up around 4 or 5am asking for milk. As long as he is not crying or screaming, I am fine waking up to attend to him.
The only wish I have now is for him to be able to sleep by himself. Most nights, he wants Mommy to be next to him. I am also fine as long as he shows me effort that he is going to sleep. But not all the time. Sometimes, he will go up and down the bed asking for this and that. Some nights, he will just toss around so much that I know he is very tired but he just doesn’t want to close his eyes to sleep. If I spent more than 30 minutes sitting next to him, I get tired as well, and I will doze off sleeping on the Ikea POÄNG Armchair next to his bed.
Sometimes, I get really upset because I am all tired by the end of the day and I need some rest time to myself. I will walk to my own bed and let him do what he wants in his own room. I lay down. The next thing is he comes running screaming for me. He will pull me down from my bed to go to his room and asks me to sit on the chair while he continues to play. At night like this is my patience is tested and I failed. I will scold him for not sleeping. It will usually be over 10:30pm by now. He will end up crying and that will make him a little more tired and he will doze off almost immediately after I ’sayang‘ him back. I will tuck him in his bed, and I will be able to walk out and he will sleep by himself … he will fall asleep FAST (tired from crying).
I don’t want this to be the solution and hope to find other ways that will help him to sleep on his own without having to have me besides him.
Can you share with me some good suggestions on how you put your kid/s to sleep on their own in their own room?
Watch Supernanny, she’ll teach you.
I have no patient to follow the style she taught on TV. I don’t even have the time to watch it now!
posted on May 6th, 2008 at 5:42 pm
poor u, anything past 8.30pm is too tiring for me. i can imagine if it’s past 10.30pm it’s like the whole day’s gone and u barely hv any time to yourself for anything else. But things can only get better soon
unfortunately i’m not qualified to offer tips as mine slept on her own in her own room since she was 6 mths.
I am very happy for you that Bee can sleep by herself in her own room. I think for my next one, I will have to start him/her early on this.
posted on May 6th, 2008 at 5:47 pm
Mott told me to let them cry it out (she did it with JR)..we have yet to do that. As you can see..we’re failures when comes to putting Belle to sleep on her own.
Ya ya … i also heard about that. but my son screams until cough until vomit. Haihz … more work for me aftewards.
posted on May 6th, 2008 at 11:40 pm
from the later post, i notice brandon is getting better at sleeping on his own. i envy u! we moved the girl to her room in December last year and we (both parents) are still sleeping with her in her room. i’m thinking how to train her to sleep on her own. i wish we have cold weather here so i don’t have to close her room door (due to aircond and also the mosquitoes if we were to use fan!). i think it does help if we can leave our room doors open here as this was how my friend trained her daughter too in middle east.
i think our next best thing here in m’sia will be the baby monitor. do keep us updated on whatever success you have with brandon sleeping in his own room.
posted on May 7th, 2008 at 1:06 am
sleep by himself can la. Not yet sleeping in his own bedroom but guess i have to do it soon. What i can say is….just hang in there. It’ll take some time
posted on May 7th, 2008 at 2:52 am
Does he have a favorite toy/animal that he sleeps with? For Lil’ C, I fill her bed with stuffed animals and told her that her friends will acccompany her when she sleeps then she won’t be lonely. Also see if you can do it gradually. Stay in his room but out of sight. Then when he looks for you, just assure him that u are still there. Move further away every day till u make it out the door. But most importantly be firm. Hope it helps.
posted on May 7th, 2008 at 9:01 pm
Ok… we failed terribly on this one… Till today, Darrius still refused to sleep with his daddy unless he is ultra tired.
For the past few nights I have to sleep with him or else he will scream and his daddy threw him out of the room!
posted on May 9th, 2008 at 4:31 pm